Brilliant article, Dana!

I do have a question relating to a friend. A separated dad with a 9-year-old boy, an older child of 20 who visits at the weekend, and an eldest daughter who has two young children of her own. The older child announced that "she" was now a "he" a couple of years ago, with a name change that is so miniscule, it can be easily disguised. The dad says he doesn't want to tell the little boy about the change because it might be temporary and he doesn't want to confuse him or introduce the concept of changing gender-identity. But meanwhile, the older kid feels dismissed by not being referred to as a brother and an uncle to the other children. I don't necessarily feel it's my place to give unsolicited advice but what would your thoughts be on dealing with this for younger kids?