Every time I have read your mentions of your brother’s accident, the horror of it has hit me hard. I can’t imagine the pain.
I have so much I could write in response to this - my experience of being the baby of the family yet the one who has chosen to put my own needs aside while my older sister has run away for most of her adult life, and my ex-partner’s family’s experience of losing one of the four brothers (second from youngest) when he was hit by a car. Again, so tragic to imagine a family going through that. I only saw the effects slowly playing out through heroin addiction and a mother finding ways to just keep herself from falling apart.