I 100% agree. I untangled myself from a very toxic relationship at 41. That was 5 years ago. I then wasted two more years regretting the years I had lost, and finally took the time to find the person that had disappeared at the age of 20, only a much wiser, kinder, more compassionate and experienced version of her. You can do anything you want. I know this is a couple of months old, and I don't know what has happened since, but I am just putting in my tuppence to say that you deserve to give yourself that opportunity, scary as it may seem! You are so much better than everything you have lived these last 16 years, and you WILL realise it.